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Recognizing When Repair Is Needed

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Recognizing When Repair Is Needed
Repair
5 MINRecognizing When Repair Is Needed
What you'll learn
  • →Recognize the three signs that something needs repair: distance, tension, replaying the conversation in your head.
  • →Understand that the body knows before the mind does — physical tension around someone's name is data.
  • →Stop waiting for the rupture to be obvious before you address it.
Proof task

Don't just watch. Do.

Think of one person you've felt subtly distant from in the last month. Write down the three signs you've noticed: where you feel the tension, how often you replay something, what you've been avoiding. The naming is the start of the repair.

Chapters

Jump to a moment.

  • 0:00The hook
  • 1:15The pattern
  • 2:45The interrupt
  • 4:30Practice scenario
  • 5:30The proof task
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Episode 3 · 6 min
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Reflect

“Whose name makes your shoulders tighten when you hear it? What does that tightness know that you've been ignoring?”

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