Listening Like You Mean It
The Rehearsal Problem
What you'll learn
- →Catch the rehearsal loop: the moment you stop listening because you're crafting your reply.
- →Understand why the rehearsal feels productive but actually steals the conversation.
- →Practice the one move that breaks the loop: drop the reply, return to the words.
Proof task
Don't just watch. Do.
Tomorrow, in the first hard conversation you have, notice when your mind starts drafting your response. When you catch it, mentally say "drop" and return your attention to their words. You'll have to do it 5-10 times. That's the practice.
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Chapters
Jump to a moment.
- 0:00The hook
- 1:15The pattern
- 2:45The interrupt
- 4:30Practice scenario
- 5:30The proof task
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Reflect
“How much of what you've said in arguments was actually a response to what was said — and how much was a script you brought in advance?”