Listening Like You Mean It
Reflecting Back
What you'll learn
- →Learn the reflection technique: say what you heard back in your own words, not theirs.
- →Understand the difference between parroting (repeating their words) and reflecting (showing you understood the meaning).
- →Practice the opening phrase: "What I'm hearing is... — am I getting that right?"
Proof task
Don't just watch. Do.
Try this once today with anyone — partner, kid, coworker, stranger. After they say something, reply with: "What I'm hearing is [reflection]. Am I getting that right?" Watch what happens to the conversation. This one move is the entire foundation of every therapy training in the world.
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Chapters
Jump to a moment.
- 0:00The hook
- 1:15The pattern
- 2:45The interrupt
- 4:30Practice scenario
- 5:30The proof task
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“What conversation in your past would have gone differently if someone had reflected back what you said before responding to it?”