Why We Avoid Hard Conversations
Fear vs Danger
What you'll learn
- →Distinguish discomfort (uncomfortable but safe) from danger (uncomfortable and unsafe).
- →Learn the three-question fear-vs-danger test: Will I be physically hurt? Will I lose what I cannot replace? Will I survive the worst case?
- →Apply the test to the specific conversation you've been avoiding.
Proof task
Don't just watch. Do.
Run the three-question test on your conversation. Write down the answers. If all three answers say it's discomfort, not danger, you have your permission slip to proceed. Save this paper.
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Chapters
Jump to a moment.
- 0:00The hook
- 1:15The pattern
- 2:45The interrupt
- 4:30Practice scenario
- 5:30The proof task
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Reflect
“When did you first learn that discomfort meant danger? Whose voice taught you that?”