The Anatomy of a Hard Conversation
Your Story vs Their Story
What you'll learn
- →Accept that you have a version of the story and they have a version, and neither is the full picture.
- →Learn the question that opens space for the other story: "Help me understand how you saw it."
- →Recognize that the conversation isn't where you prove your version — it's where the full picture forms.
Proof task
Don't just watch. Do.
Write down your version of the conflict in three sentences. Then write what you imagine their version is — not what you think is right, but what they would actually say if asked. Reading them side by side is the exercise.
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Chapters
Jump to a moment.
- 0:00The hook
- 1:15The pattern
- 2:45The interrupt
- 4:30Practice scenario
- 5:30The proof task
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Reflect
“If their version of the story is also true for them, what does that change about how you walk into the conversation?”